Sunday, January 23, 2011

On Leaving Facebook

Why does my decision to simplify my life and leave Facebook (sort of) make me feel like I am dying.

Scanning my list of "friends" I selected a few to send notes of "Please don't forget me...", dumping all my contact information into the note, hoping to remain friends without our beloved Facebook connection! Some dear friends, lost once and found again through Facebook, I don't want to lose again and so the idea of severing our Facebook relationship is troubling.

But, really, does merely being listed in my friend registry on Facebook mean we are friends, in the real sense of the word? In some ways we fool ourselves into thinking we are being friends, connected by status updates. Sure, it's nice to have found our long-lost friends, but what do we do with them once we find them; store them neatly in our friend list, and then what?

I have thought about making the break for a long time, but the idea of losing that thread of contact has kept me logging on - even though many of the people I am most worried about losing track of seldom even update their Facebook profiles, much less communicate with me!

I'm ready to start living once again in the real world. I will still have my Facebook account, so if you just can't communicate with me any other way, please send me a friend request and explain your plight - just be sure to include your email address too!

It is almost like I'm dying, and I guess in the magical realm of cyberdom I am. But, I'm counting on a life after death, we'll see how it goes!


  1. Hey - not dead, just free! Guaranteed the people you really care about are in your email address book. You can get in touch with them anytime you want or need to.

    You just simplified your life - and knowing your hectic life you need to.

    Bruce Lee said, "It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential."

  2. So. Not to be all....deflating..but wouldn't it have been easier to just...delete your facebook account....